●A Master.

Each submissive and Dom are different, seeking different things in both the lifestyle and BDSM, the level of obedience and pain are not the same for each person. It is important that you find a Master who matches your limits, expectations, hopes and dreams, yet a Master who is imaginative--and knowledgeably enough to take you to the depths of submission that you  ultimately need and desire.

Here is my opinion what a Master should be.

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He is a dominant man, a strong man. He has confidence and control of Himself, as well as a position in society and life. He knows what He wants from His submissive and life. He is independent, has goals and dreams and follows them. He stands up for His beliefs. He is an individual and leader.

He respects women and cherishes his chosen submissive. He understands, cares, loves and revels in her presence. He is intelligent, teaching her with understanding and patience. He slowly possesses her.  He gently opens her mind to a new world. He always shows her that she is strong, that her limits may not be what she believes they are--taking her further than her dreams had previously known, while enabling her confidence and self-esteem.

He cherishes, cares, protects, and loves her. When she is ill, He cares for her. When she is exhausted he lets her rest, stroking her hair as she drifts off to sleep. He will comfort her when she needs it, calming her fears and emotions. He guides, nurtures, and inspires.

He knows her, possibly better than she knows herself. Her mind is His to know and to expand. He sees into her heart and soul and holds them in His hands.  She is His -- heart, mind, soul and body. She places herself in His care, and becomes His most valued possession.

He does not take away her identity or spirit, but allows her to grow and prosper as her own being. He will mold her into what He thinks she should be but allows her the freedom to grow and live under his loving care. She becomes the woman she always been with deep within her spirit.

"What about discipline and punishment?" you ask. To be handed out firmly but lovingly. He will never punish in anger. He is her teacher and trainer; anger has no place when he disciplines her. Punishment doesn't have to physical ---it can be psychological. He does not do it to be harsh or to hurt her, but out of love, devotion and forgiveness.

Her submission to Him is not out of fear for punishment, but out of love, respect, and trust. She radiates under His love and guidance. She has given Him the gift of her soul, mind and body. He takes her gift of submission seriously, knows it is special and rare-- It is not given freely to All or lightly to any.