● O control ~~ Elements & Training

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 Elements of Orgasm Control Training   by MasterfulJ - Fetlife

  ( it's Not about the will)

From my own experience and those I have met and corresponded with there seem to be a limited number of elements that are used in orgasm training. Any given trainer may use his/her own combination of them.

1. Putting the subject in highly suggestible states is often used. This can mean hypnotism, but it can also mean just making suggestions to a woman in between orgasms, or it can mean the subject using a suitable mantra, affirming the control, during meditation.

2. Conditioning. Pavlov's dog. Always give the same signal before she comes so that the signal becomes associated with a pleasurable outcome then break the connection between erotic stimuli and orgasm so that the signal becomes necessary for orgasm

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3. Highly aroused states. Having a highly aroused subject lowers the barriers to responding to a signal. This is especially important in early stages of training.

4. Consistency of focus on the training is needed over a period of time. The exception to this may be the use of hypnotism.

5. Intense connection over a period of time. While not an absolute requirement, it seems that the greatest development of orgasm control is to be found in those practitioners with long-term, committed relationships.

Something which is not needed  is the subject's belief that she can be trained to come on command. Almost no woman believes this about herself before experiencing it. She does need to be willing to cooperate and not resist the training. It is also very helpful if the woman is readily multi-orgasmic (There are vanilla training programs for this if she is not.).

The elements above can be combined or sometimes used alone. I have seen others use hypnosis and post-hypnotic suggestions to establish orgasm control very quickly without using any of the other elements. I have also had described to me that the dom simply had the subject masturbate intensely every day for a month without coming. She then came immediately on his command. Another single element case. My personal preference is for slower processes using conditioning.

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Orgasm Control Conditioning of Females
 a training method using conditioning                                   by MasterfulJ - Fetlife 

                                                            

The method which I have used to gain control of orgasms is primarily based on conditioning with suggestion and high erotic charge being important components. Although I have tried with several women and been successful with two, the perfection of my methods has been developed with my slave/wife “slavegirl” which is described below.

I started by telling the subject while she was very turned on, while fucking or such, that she would reach a point where she would come when I commanded without further stimulation and would be unable to come without my command. I emphasized that this would require no effort on her part but would be a deeply embedded trigger. This was repeated many times as we went along during and after the initial training.

To begin I asked her to always ask for permission before coming. Initially I gave her permission immediately when she asked. Then I started gauging how long she could hold it off and withheld permission until I thought she was about to fail. I made sure that she never failed at this.

Then I incorporated stopping stimulation when she asked for permission and withholding permission for a short period before giving permission. Eventually extending this to a minute or so.

 I also then started gauging when she was close and commanding her to come before she asked and before she hit her peak excitation. If she failed to come on command or came when I had not commanded, rare occurrences, I took responsibility for it and emphasized that she was not to try and do anything.

Telling her I had just made a mistake like trying to make her jump further than she could now, but that with further training she would succeed in this. I praised her whether she came or not.   If she failed to have an orgasm it was for showing me her true responses so that I could train her.  This is very important so that she wouldn’t be trained to just try to please me.

(I should say that one should be very familiar with the subject’s orgasms before doing this.     Watch her orgasms in detail. Watch her masturbate to orgasm. Learn the signs of a real orgasm. One of the dangers here is that the subject may deeply desire to please the trainer and this can interfere with the training.
I attempt to get around this by knowing her responses in detail and by always praising her.)

The first time she came on command was at a club in LA. We had played and then watched another couple play. Then I tied her on her back with her pussy elevated so her wet thong was very visible. She was very turned on. The other master and I then discussed how turned on she was, etc while standing on either side of her.
 When it was clear that she was very turned on,  I commanded her to come with no physical contact. She immediately had a modest orgasm. During the rest of the evening I had her come on command several more times and these became stronger.

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After that evening I started giving her orgasms on command just with slight pleasurable contact. Such things as hugging her for a few seconds and then giving the command, or briefly stroking her breasts or butt. This is still the way to get the strongest, quickest response and I still use it to reinforce her training.

 Then I moved to surprising her in nonsexual situations. This typically works very well especially if she doesn’t see it coming at all. She describes feeling a flow of energy into her crotch which then expands into an orgasm.

These orgasms have the typical signs of reddening of upper chest and face as well as nipples and violent uncontrolled body contractions which could cause her to fall if I didn’t support her.

Having achieved this, I emphasized her not being able to come without my command. At first she controlled this by holding her breath and tensing up. We had many sessions in which I would take her to very high levels of excitement and then coach her in breathing or use other methods to get her to relax.

Eventually she got to where she could go past where she would normally come, reaching higher levels of excitement without coming. After about 4 yrs of training I commanded her that she could not come but told her she was to try to come by stimulating herself as effectively as she could.

She became very excited and acted like a crazed animal trying to get herself to come. When she was unsuccessful she started crying because it scared her.

In the year or so since this was achieved she came once in a dream when she dreamed that I had commanded her to come. A couple of other times when I had her very excited and gave her intense pain to her clit or vagina she came. Recently, however, with continued training in this situation she no longer comes even with that combination without my command.

I want to emphasize that this is not orgasm denial. Before this training she was essentially infinitely orgasmic, able to have back to back orgasms for more than 2 h. With the training she has fewer orgasms, usually “only” a few a day. Sometimes as many as 20 or so if we play.     

Her orgasms are entirely at my whim and, as I tell her and she repeats, they have only two functions. I give her orgasms only for my pleasure or to deepen her slavery, never just for her pleasure. So what has changed is that she no longer has any control of when she will come or knowledge of when I will command it. I always try to leave her less than satiated.

The training is not complete yet as there are still times when her consciousness intervenes in ways that are not what  I want. We’ll consider these later.